This is How It Always Is

This is How It Always Is Review

This is how a family keeps a secret…and how that secret ends up keeping them.

This is how a family lives happily ever after…until happily ever after becomes complicated.

This is how children change…and then change the world.

This is Claude. He’s five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.

When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl.

Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They’re just not sure they’re ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude’s secret. Until one day it explodes.

This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it’s about the ways this is how it always is: Change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don’t get to keep them forever.

"This is a novel everyone should read. It’s brilliant. It’s bold. And it’s time.”
―Elizabeth George, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Banquet of Consequences

Title:This is How It Always Is
Edition Language:English

    Some Testimonial About This Book:

  • Emily May

    “Well. Usually boys don’t wear dresses to preschool,” Rosie admitted carefully. “Or tights.”“I’m not usually,” said Claude. This, Rosie reflected, even at the time, was true. I've bee...

  • Larry H

    I'm about 4.5, maybe 4.75 stars.Penn and Rosie fell in love almost instantaneously. Penn was a writer forever working on his "damned novel," while Rosie worked as an emergency room doctor forever on t...

  • Kelly (and the Book Boar)

    FLOAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because this has been selected as"REESE'S BOOK CLUB" pick for October, 2018. I'm pretty sure Reese chooses her books by reading my blog because I seem to always read them first (...

  • (Bern) Mom to 2 Posh Lil Divas

    This is How It Always Is was emotional, touching and at times a bit saccharine but I loved every page!This is a story of love, family and acceptance. It is also the story of young Claude who has g...

  • Trevor

    I'm really conflicted on the rating for THIS IS HOW IT ALWAYS IS because on the one hand it's great that this book has so many positives & doesn't end on a pessimistic tone; we need LGBTQIAP+ stories ...

  • Rose (Traveling Sister)

    This book has me WEAK. It's an education I didn’t even realize I needed. 500 rainbow night fairy stars and a spot on my favorites shelf for This Is How It Always Is.Claude is born the youngest of 5 ...

  • Elyse Walters

    Happy New Year! A gorgeous eye catching book cover....A story with a lot of heart...Kept me reading into the New Year early morning hours. I enjoyed this novel very much - but it’s not without flaws...

  • j e w e l s [Books Bejeweled]

    FOUR STARSThis is the October pick for the RW book club. If you look at the books Reese Witherspoon has selected this year since she started her book club, you can almost see her mentally ticking off ...

  • Skyler Autumn

    3 Stars This is How It Always Is, is a book I don't usually gravitate towards call me a chicken but when I read a blurb about a transgender child coming into their own I right away go to all the nega...

  • Heather

    The only reason I finished this is because I think the topic of discussion is important and I wanted to give it my attention. This book is a character study, and not just of Claude/Poppy, but the enti...