Modern Romance
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Modern Romance

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Now a New York Times Bestseller

A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices


At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?

Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?” 

But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.

For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before.

In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.

Title:Modern Romance
Edition Language:English
ISBN:1594206279
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:288 pages

    Modern Romance Reviews

  • Sarah Actually
    Jun 25, 2015

    This book ended up not being totally what I expected going in, but it was still very enjoyable and I actually learned a lot. Thanks Aziz. And thanks for reading it to me, even though you kept calling ...

  • Kelly (and the Book Boar)
    Jul 06, 2015

    Find all of my reviews at: http://52bookminimum.blogspot.com/3.5 Stars Modern Romance went on my TBR as soon as I heard rumors of its existence. We’re talking about waiting months for this damn thin...

  • Anne
    Oct 05, 2016

    So, this isn't really a humorous book about Aziz Ansari's dating experiences, it's more like a book about dating in the modern world, written by the very humorous Aziz Ansari.I was introduced to Aziz'...

  • Stephanie
    Oct 07, 2015

    I am a satisfied single.I did not coin that term, I did hear it from somewhere, but I don’t remember who said it. Sorry person who said it. Anyway.....what this means to me is that I’m fine with b...

  • Khadidja
    Oct 26, 2016

    As a single woman I feel like Aziz Ansari knows my pain. Yes I am single by choice ( not my choice, but still a choice) , He knows how unpleasant it is to stare impotently at a screen waiting for a me...

  • Diane
    Nov 16, 2015

    Aziz Ansari is a funny guy. I've enjoyed his work as an actor and a comedian, so I shouldn't have been surprised when I really liked his book. But I was surprised, especially when I learned that he ha...

  • Elyse
    Nov 30, 2015

    At the beginning of the audiobook, Aziz joked with 'us listeners', about being "Lazy People"......too lazy to sit down and read a book. He not only had to write the book, but now he 'had' to read it u...

  • Glenn Sumi
    May 31, 2016

    Bravo to comic and actor Aziz Ansari for not writing just another memoir-by-someone-who’s-sorta-famous-but-hasn’t-lived-long-enough-to-really-warrant-one. I’ve read a number of them (good: Bossy...

  • Sarah Jane
    Aug 08, 2015

    I think Aziz Ansari just convinced me to get on Tinder?...

  • Snoon Mcwilliams
    Jul 09, 2015

    Startlingly inessential.Early on, Ansari makes a somewhat baffling statement that he felt compelled to write this book because there wasn't any other literature on modern dating culture-- a topic expl...

About Aziz Ansari

Aziz Ansari

Aziz Ishmael Ansari is an American actor and comedian. He starred as Tom Haverford on the NBC show Parks and Recreation.Ansari began his career performing standup comedy in New York City during the summer of 2000 while attending New York University. In 2007, he created and starred in the critically acclaimed MTV sketch comedy show Human Giant, which ran for two seasons. This led to acting roles in